Relationships are nice and there are a lot of things expected from both parties, a lot of things to also consider. But not all relationships are q bed of roses, that is why you have to tread lightly in most cases.
The most important things in a relationship are Friendship and Communication. Since this is important the work of patience cannot be overemphasized.
Who is an Emotionally Unavailable Man?
This is rare in some relationships but people who experience this have a lot of work to do. This person might exhibit toxic traits which is why you must tread lightly.
So how do you know he’s emotionally unavailable?…..
You may be wondering why your boyfriend is exhibiting traits like he seems not to care or has a bad way of showing he loves you. Then this article is for you.
How do you know your partner is emotionally unavailable?
Emotionally unavailable partners may be evasive, make excuses, or be unable to talk about their feelings. More subtle signs that may signal unavailability include being too flattering, chronic lateness, and arrogance. It’s also important, to be honest with yourself about your own emotional availability.
Symptoms of emotional detachment
1: An Emotionally Unavailable Man stays by himself
Nothing makes him want to come out with his problems and keeps more to himself. He is encased and encaged in a shell he has created for himself and has no intention of coming out of it.
2: This person appears mostly distracted and sometimes uninterested in things happening around him
You can’t blame them in all of their entirety, but part of it. It’s only his fault if he realizes he is in a shell and doesn’t want to come out of it. It’s more of a mental problem that affects his emotions making them dormant.
3: As much as he loves his family, there is no way of showing it than to stay away from them
Once a man is void of emotions even his family is not left out when it comes to receiving this treatment. The silent treatment or one-word replies or sometimes grumpiness.
Avoiding people, activities, or places because they’re associated with past trauma or event: Past experiences do have a way to stick to people’s minds, especially if it’s negative ones. If anything relating to whatever traumatized them happens they completely lose it. So they find every means possible to avoid it. He does this on purpose.
Helping such a person might look difficult, but it’s not difficult at all, it just takes time. Just a little complex because of the mood swings involved, but looking at it, it’s not hard at all.
So how can you help such a person? How can you bring him out of that shell
How to Deal With An Emotionally Unavailable Man
1: Pray Earnestly.
Dealing with the emotions of someone you care about must require your very own deity. Praying for that person to whatever religion you believe in. Pray to God, Allah, Buddha, whatever, or whoever it is. That way you’re halfway through.
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2: Lower your expectations, just a little bit
Don’t expect too much from him, just take little gestures as one of the biggest things he’s doing for you. That way he’d want to do more. Instead of being extremely introverted, he might just come out as simply shy but a tiny bit extroverted. That’s your first improvement!
3:Try to figure out the best way to get through to him
Every human being on earth has something that they can never let go of, no matter how much he tries to hide it. It may be a hobby or something he likes to do or say. That is the easiest way to get through to him.
4:Find a good friend to confide in
This doesn’t mean you’re bringing a third party into the relationship, it’s just you trying to not do things on your own. Most times this is not always advisable but very effective!
5:Consider couples counseling
Couples counseling helps both parties air their views, it’s also a safe place for peaceful talk. Helping an emotionally unavailable man needs the best environment.
6: Have patience
Patience is a very good virtue. Sometimes it gets frustrating, sometimes you might feel like you can’t keep up, or you feel like you’ve done something wrong. Take a chill pill and trust the process. Let time do its work. Be patient. It’ll go a long way.
7: Read his body language
When having a conversation, there is every probability that he might have a mood swing, Or he may not be comfortable with what you’re saying. Call him out calmly, words like “we don’t have to talk about it if you’re not okay with it” send a signal of comfort. It works every time.
8: Be true to what you want
Never try to beat around the bush, go straight to the point. Whatever you want, you have to work towards it. Don’t ever try to go around it. It never works
9:Focus on the positive
Work with the improvements and never be negative about them. Be genuinely happy that your partner is coming out of that shell. Stay positive, stay happy, and stay calm with the improvements.
An Emotionally Unavailable Man is someone who is basically in a shell he has created to find solace in. For him it’s a comfort zone and trying to bring him out of it might be one of the hardest things, but trust me it’s worth it.
Through this process, you’d find out that the bond the both of you once shared becomes stronger and unbreakable.
You can have that happy relationship you’ve always wanted. Although helping an emotionally unavailable man is like helping an addicted man, who says no one can overcome an addiction? You just have to take the right steps.