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Why Guys Flirt Even When They Aren’t Interested

Why Guys Flirt Even When They Aren't Interested

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Why Guys Flirt Even When They Aren’t Interested

Most women complain about guys who usually flirt with them and in the process, they feel used. These guys never really show interest in them or plan to date them. They’re just after the feelings they get from flirting, the bad thing is that you are being led on emotionally.

He doesn’t ask you for a real relationship or tell you his intentions. His flirting doesn’t indicate anything. It’s so frustrating and confusing not being able to figure out what they have in mind.

Some ladies meet guys in the office, clubs, social events, etc. they hang out, have fun, and share experiences, the vibe is high and they seem to have a connection but these guys do not try to make a move.

This has made most women ask this question why do men flirt even when they are not interested? Let’s keep digging to unravel the reasons.

Flirting is a way to show emotional affection or sexual attraction through charm and playfulness. This is commonly the human language for expressing affection or attraction. People use this means to determine sexual compatibility. If they flirt with you and you respond by flirting back, it shows you both are attracted to each other. It’s the easiest way of checking if someone would respond to your proposal without having the fear of rejection.

It becomes a means of non-verbal approach to communicating your feelings to someone. But not all flirting leads to real relationships. What that means is a guy can flirt with you but isn’t interested in dating you. Do you want to know why this occurs? If yes then don’t stop reading, I will give you practical reasons and details in more words.

Why Guys Flirt Even When They Aren’t Interested

1. He Is Clueless

Men and women have different psychology, understanding this will help you know why he flirts with you without keen interest.

It has been scientifically proven that women are better at expressing and interpreting emotional signs. They are more skillful and practical than men. Biologically flirting takes place in the limbic system the non-logical part of the brain linked with you.

Apparently a man might flirt with you, show you his humor, sweetness  and charm but he is not feeling you.

He might not have a clue of what he’s doing or his flirt. You probably are the one taking it seriously while he is just chilling with you.

2.He Is Interested but might not admit it

Like I stated earlier about some men being clueless about what they feel. He might be interested in you but he might not admit it.

If a man flirts with you all the time it’s a sign of great attraction. However, note that attraction occurs at the side of the brain. That implies he might be attracted to you but might not really know it, because he is yet to realize and accept it.

3.He Can’t Date You

Perhaps you met a guy who you feel attracted to, he flirts with you and vice versa but for some reasons he can’t date you.

For instance if you met at the mall and exchange numbers. During your chats he might flirt with you and enjoy it. But truth is you guys can’t go further than this. He might be married or probably in a relationship. Obviously you can’t have anything serious with him, he is just enjoying the moment.

4.You Felt It but He Didn’t

Another reason a guy might flirt with you when he is not interested could be that you felt the connection but he didn’t. Two years ago I got talking with this guy, we flirted a lot but he never asked me out on a date. I got emotionally affected but he wasn’t.

I expected it will be mutual but there wasn’t any positive response. I saw him as well someone I could build something great with, but he wasn’t ready for such. He didn’t feel what I felt.

Most times guys would flirt, act funny, play with you and call you sweet names and you mistake it for affection. You might think he felt something strong like you did, but sincerely he didn’t or maybe not at the same level.

5.He’s unaware that he’s flirting

There are some guys that aren’t used to verbal means of communication so they flirt with you not even knowing they do. For this kind of guy it’s his nature.

He is being caring, laughing, gives you attention without knowing his actions interprets he is interested in you. He might be ignorant of such attractive signals, so he needs a relationship advice.

6.He’s lonely

A very good reason a guy is flirting is if he is lonely. If he flirts often with you without asking you for a relationship, he might be patching time with you just to get off his loneliness.

He could have different reasons for been lonely, perhaps he just got out of a relationship and he hasn’t moved on. He is yet to make up his mind on establishing a relationship.

7.He’s responding to your flirting

One of the reasons he could be flirting with you might be he is responding to your flirt. You probably started the flirt and he doesn’t know how to react. In order not to offend you he would flirt back.

8.He’s used to flirting with you

This usually occurs among friends, if he is used to both of you flirting with each other. You flirt and he flirts back, this is what you guys started with so it will continue. But it takes a new turn when one person starts taking it seriously.

Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and ask if he is interested in dating you or not, be ready to get no for an answer. If he says no be prepared to move on.

9.He likes you but you’re unavailable

It could be that he is flirting with you hoping you will understand his signs indicating interest but you aren’t available.

If you have ever mentioned someone else’s name to him or you said something that made him think you won’t be available for a relationship, it could be the possible reason he is acting uninterested.

10.To boost his self-esteem

A guy might be flirting just to boost his self esteem not for the interest of a relationship. They believe it’s the only way to feel good about themselves.

Biologically when you flirt with someone your brain releases oxytocin and dopamine Which boost your vibe and makes you feel good.

11.To make some other girl jealous

Some guys do this too, they flirt with some girl just to make the girl they are into feel jealous. This is the approach they use to see if she will get irritated and also get her attention.

It’s a common approach used to get someone who is playing difficult to get. Men use this to get  back their feelings that have been ignored.


A flirt doesn’t really mean someone is interested in you. It might just be his way of being nice to the opposite gender. So instead of getting so attached to it, hoping for something more than friendship live your life. You can either decide to ask him or forget about your feelings and move on.

ALSO, READ Signs She Wants You Even If She Has a Boyfriend



Originally posted 2023-03-07 21:05:06.

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