Boyfriends, Boyfriends? Boyfriends! These are some of the reactions you get from girls trying to explain who their boyfriends are. It’s either they are pretty chill or confused about it or just downright frustrated. Why? Because they keep arguing with their boyfriends everyday.
You are reading this right now either to win the fight or to just end it right away by letting him win. You are thinking, how do I stop arguing with my boyfriend everyday? I am getting tired…
Don’t worry your question would be answered pretty soon.
Relationships are one of the most vital parts in the life of any individual. Whether it be friendship or partnership, courtship or even the boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, all of it make up the connections in the life of an individual.
HOW DO I STOP ARGUING WITH MY BOYFRIEND EVERYDAY
1: Set Boundaries
In a relationship there should be room for respect and even the littlest of privacy. Now this is not just about keeping things from each other. It’s merely keeping your space and respecting each others feelings. If you notice that you keep having arguments for the littlest of things then you should think about setting boundaries. At least for the main time before compromising.
2: Be ready to Compromise
Now a guy would always have his flaws and whether you like it or not it’s why you fell for him. You can see the red flags but still decide to be with him, but at the same time wanting him to bend to your will all in the name of trying to change him. But you must remember a guy has an ego and most guys still believe a girl should at least listen to whatever he has to say. That’s where the compromise comes in. You must both be ready to compromise for the betterment of that relationship. If you both can’t compromise then break the relationship for the sake of both your mental health.
3: Don’t Be Selfish
In a relationship, in the mind of both parties, your first priority is your said partner. So when it comes to emotional support you must both be there for each other. During arguments don’t make it all about yourself. Don’t use “you” but “I”. “ I’m sorry it has to be like this….” “ I totally understand if you feel this way” Statements like this could calm him down or either rile him up depending on the kind of person he is. Then that takes us to our next point
4: Be Patient
Arguing With Your Boyfriend Everyday can only mean one thing, you are impatient and to hot blooded. You need to calm down to save your relationship. Another reason you’re reading this post is because even though your patience is running thin, you still love him and want to save that relationship. So just give it a little more time.
5: Seek Professional Help
If No 4 doesn’t work you both have to go see a relationship coach, or a counselor or therapist or even psychologist. This could help you both air out your views and opinions about whatever is going on to get to the root of the matter. You would both be doing each other a favor.
6: Give yourselves some alone time
A little bit time apart can actually help you both think things through individually and rejuvenating yourselves. Arguing with the one you love daily can be physically and emotionally draining. So a little bit time apart would help you both figure out if the relationship should continue or not.
7: Talk about it
For both Individuals to be in a relationship it means they are both mature to actually communicate about issues regarding their relationship. You both must be ready to talk about.
There are other things you must take into consideration while trying to solve this problem. It’s the WWH formula. The what? The When? And the How? These three things are mostly considered when dealing with an overbearing partner.
- The What: This is the “what do I do” question. This is the reason you’re reading this post, you don’t know what to do and you’re seeking for help. Well what to do has been written above so you don’t have a problem with what to do.
- The When: This is the “When do I do what I know what to do” question. You do this in the course of your relationships and when you have arguments. You both know there’s something you both are keeping to yourselves which might be what is causing the argument. So this is the point when you put what you know into play.
- The How: This is the “How do I go about it” question. You must be patient and watch your words. Don’t be too harsh with your words. You could talk on a note of finality but it must be as subtle as possible. You could even do this when you are both on good terms with each other. That’s a more safer ground to work with. Make sure not to rile him up but make sure your point has been made.
This may all seem hard but in the end, it’s pretty easy and worth it. All you have to do is try. You’re in love with this person aren’t you? Then go for it.
A relationship is a bed of roses but remember once you jump on that bed, some of those roses fall off the bed, some squeeze completely, and at some point to get comfort you have to dust off those roses and find comfort in whoever you jumped on that bed with. Don’t try to find the roses in that person, create the rose yourself and watch it bloom.
A relationship is not a do or die affair. If he is too toxic, please leave. You deserve much more than being with someone who makes you sad, angry and frustrated all the time. And even if it seems hard, just know that you’d always get over it. One thing I know for sure, I may not know you or never met you before but I know you’re strong and you can overcome anything.
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