Emotional manipulation is one of the most dangerous weapons used by anyone on anyone. It is a weapon that always appeals negatively to one’s emotions. Therefore rendering one either powerless or useless.
A lot of people use this for a lot of things. For fun, to gain something or to spite someone, or to weaken someone to complete a particular mission. it’s more of a mind game but more profoundly. This is mostly done face-to-face between two or more people. One example of emotional manipulation is Stockholm Syndrome.
What is Emotional Manipulation?
Emotional manipulation is behavior that intends to emotionally exploit, control, or influence someone for an advantage. In a relationship, emotional manipulation may be the only form of abuse present, or it may take place alongside other types of abuse, including physical, psychological, or spiritual…
5 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
1: Guilt tripping:
When someone wants to get something out of you, he makes you feel guilty for the slightest mistake you have made. Takes the whole situation overboard and makes you think it’s your fault. This person could use reverse psychology to spice it up a little. It works every time and people know it.
This is mostly in relationships. When one takes an attribute of themselves or an ex’s attribute into their current relationships just to get something out of their current partners. This is also used when the person has come out of a really bad relationship. The person, therefore, brings such traits into the new relationship. This is one tool used for emotional manipulation that not many people actually take note of and people who use it, use it to the best of their capacity.
3: Using Your Insecurities against you:
This person knows your weakness and could use it both in a subtle way and also in a harsh way. This person knows your Insecurities and uses them to his advantage. He could also use it to get out of trouble. This works like a new lighter. Sometimes they tell you it’s for your own good.
This person makes everything about themselves. They make you feel like you are not doing enough for them by using the “You can’t do this for me but you claim to love me, or care about me” line. You may not know it, but this person is just tricking You into believing you’re not doing enough. This could be done by a family, friend, or that special person. Even your best friend, or your wife or husband. Your girlfriend or boyfriend. Any human being can be selfish, but when it comes to emotional manipulation it is a very powerful tool.
This is the most powerful tool. This is used to compel one to do one’s will, whether you like it or not. This is facing you head-on without any fear of what you might think of them. They use this for their gain. For example, One could tell you to do something and that if you don’t do it they will reveal your secret. This tool is used by close friends, best friends, partners, or worse, family! This way you are forced to do whatever it takes.
What does emotional manipulation do to you?
If you start to see yourself experiencing one of these then you are under emotional blackmail.
1: You begin to doubt yourself:
When one is being emotionally manipulated, one tends to doubt his entire existence. One begins to doubt himself and sometimes begins to lose confidence in himself. You lose yourself slowly into that world of the doubt till you completely bend to what that person wants you to be.
2: You are compelled to lose relationships:
Emotional manipulation makes you feel you’re not enough for everyone and that you are better off alone, so tend to cut off relationships from people. Even the most important people in your life, and then clinging to that one person that makes you feel less of yourself
3: You always want to get the tiniest bit of compliment from that person manipulating you:
When you are being emotionally manipulated, it because a thing of the mind and affects your mental health. Because you would always want to seek approval from that person. You would always want to get a positive response from that person. This can only work when you are in love with that person or that person is the most important in your life. It may be your Father or your mother
4: You begin to question reality: Emotional manipulators make you feel like you’re stupid and you don’t know what you are doing. They always make you think you are not thinking straight and that you are making wrong decisions. They could make you think Blue is turquoise. Then you begin to ask yourself meaningless questions. This could also affect your mental state and you could actually lose your mind.
Emotional manipulation can be very scary if it gets to the extreme and most people don’t mind how far it goes as long as they get what they want. This is usually one of the most dangerous things on earth because lots of people have gone mad or died because of emotional manipulation. One could think of suicide if one’s emotional state is not strong enough to withstand such criticism.
So if you ever find yourself in the strong jaws of emotional manipulation, please do well to consult a therapist. Therapists are emotional manipulators themselves, so they know how it works. Thankfully they use it positively so you have no problem telling your problems to them. Secondly, you can also try to face the problem head-on. Do not let anyone take your sanity from you. You must fight to get it back.
Emotional manipulation could be deadly, but it doesn’t mean it could cause your death. You are not stupid, and neither are you not thinking well. You are perfectly normal, nothing is wrong with you. What you saw is the truth, what you know is the truth. You can get a grip on your emotional and mental health all you need to do is build it. Consult a therapist for further solutions and counseling.