Family! The most vital part of the life of any individual. A family is mostly what determines the outcome of one’s personality, attitude, or sense of humor. A family is what makes or mare an individual. Family is the basic and most important thing in the life of an individual. If there is no family or one to call family then there is no individual.
A family is one’s home, one’s solace, and one’s best support. A family is what brings out the real character of a person. The kind of family an individual comes out from determines the kind of person one would be, except one chooses one’s path. Some people come from healthy and happy families while some people come from straight-up toxic homes; which affects their sense of reasoning. Thereby causing them to lack good virtue.
But what happens when the family you know to be your solace always tends to push you away and fight your demons on your own? What are the signs you see that makes you feel unwanted? Here are signs your family doesn’t care about you!
4 SIGNS YOUR FAMILY DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU
1 They are Never Supportive:
A family that cares would always in all circumstances give the utmost support. But one who doesn’t care would always be unsupportive of you. It’s quite absurd because a family should naturally support you in your dreams and ambitions but it’s the other way around. Being supportive should be a natural trait in a family, but when it’s non-existent and it’s most likely directed to you then you know they have no care for you whatsoever
2: They Make You Feel Less Important:
Most times you notice you’re barely noticeable by anyone in your family. For some reason, you feel like a lamp just placed on top of a reading table and only valued when you are in use. This simply means if you ever notice this, it means they care less about you and outrightly don’t care about you at all. Your feelings don’t matter and most of the time you are hardly called by your parents or anyone from your family for anything important or useful except it’s to get something from you or somewhat find a way to make you feel less of yourself.
You are the last to know anything and turn everything again you. To them, you always do everything wrong and you are never enough. You are always being yelled at for the tiniest of mistakes. This might also be a sign that your family might regret having you in their lives and not try to hide it.
3: Your opinions don’t Matter:
When your family cares about you, your words and actions are held in respect, irrespective of your age or gender. Your words don’t just fall to the ground but are put to good use. Unlike an unsupportive family, one that degrades your opinion to the bare minimum until it is non-existent. The fact that your opinions don’t matter when it comes to decision-making or other important things in the family shows how much your family doesn’t care about you. This heartbreaking fact can be found in toxic and unhappy families.
4: They often compare you to others:
When your family doesn’t care about you, you are never enough for them. To them, you are not doing enough. You’re not working hard enough, you’re not studying enough, you are not doing this or that enough; and that’s when the comparison comes in. They compare to the person closest to you. The person might be younger which is humiliating and most times it might be a random kid down the or worse your best friend. Enhanced negativity and toxicity like this only show that they don’t care about you.
If any of these four things become consistent, you know your family doesn’t care about you.
Before you tap the back to home page icon read this carefully
Some families actually care about themselves and sometimes it may look like they do not but they do. How do you know they do?
They would do the exact opposite of what is written above. But sometimes they may say or do something they don’t mean. But that doesn’t mean they don’t care. The only time you should think about that is if it becomes a consistent circle. Do not take scolding for your family not caring about you, and do not misunderstand your family’s harsh motivation for you to do better as a toxic trait except it becomes a constant thing. And for you reading this, try your best to be the best of yourself. That way you wouldn’t have to worry about comparison or whatnot.
Now when you notice the traits of your family not caring about you, you must visit a therapist. You can also lash out because it helps to take the bad energy out of you. Never bottle up those emotions. If you have to tell back, yell, if you have to voice out your feelings do just that. This is the most heartbreaking thing any human can ever go through but you must never let anyone bring you down even if it means your own family.
Also, try praying. God gave you that family for a reason. Maybe he brought you to that family to change it for good. Maybe you are the key to your family’s greatness but don’t let their words or actions bring you down. Stay positive.
When your family doesn’t care about you, you are mortified and dejected. You begin to feel less of yourself which can either lead you to hide your hurt through every negative means possible. This can affect your mental health, that’s why it is advisable to see a therapist or a very reliable friend. Find solace in positive things. Don’t forget to be optimistic about it. Don’t forget to pray and don’t forget to stay positive. It is hard, it might be hard but try your hardest, whether you like it or not your family might need help and the solution would always lie with you!